Welcome — I’m Koya.

I’m a Ghanaian-born, UK-raised Black woman, lifelong journaler, writer, and deep feeler. This blog is the space I created to explore and honour what it means to grow, evolve, and reclaim yourself — especially as a Black African woman living in a world that too often asks us to shrink.

I grew up between two cultures — Ghana and the UK — constantly trying to find language for experiences that weren’t always talked about. Writing became my safe place. My journal was where I unpacked joy, confusion, anger, questions, shame, and hope.

By day, I navigate the structure of the corporate world. But by heart, I’m a storyteller. I’ve always been fascinated by people — their truths, their contradictions, their lived experiences. I love a good conversation, and I’m known for playing devil’s advocate — not to win, but to understand.

I started this blog because being a woman comes with challenges. Being a Black woman, and especially an African woman, comes with layers — culture, religion, patriarchy, silence, and sometimes deep loneliness. These layers often go unspoken, but they shape so much of who we are.

This blog is where I unravel some of that.

I want this space to be a soft but honest corner of the internet — where we can share stories, challenge inherited beliefs, and begin to heal. I believe in change through shared experience, in writing as resistance, and in the quiet but radical act of showing up for yourself.

One quote that has guided me for years is:

“Be who you needed when you were younger.” – Ayesha Siddiqi

That’s what I’m trying to do here — and if you’ve ever felt like you needed more room to just be, you’re in the right place.

Thank you for being here. I hope something you read invites you home to yourself.

If something I shared resonated with you, I’d love to hear from you. You can leave a comment on a post, send me a message or just say hello.

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