Welcome — I’m Koya.

This space began in 2020 because I needed somewhere to place the things I didn’t have language for — the discomfort, the anger, the confusion, the questions I had learned to carry quietly. I didn’t start this blog to teach or to lead. I started it because I didn’t have anyone helping me navigate what I was carrying, and writing was the only place I could be honest without abandoning myself.

I’m a Ghanaian-born, UK-raised Black woman, a lifelong journaler, writer, and deep feeler. I grew up between cultures, shaped by family expectations, faith, silence, and survival. Like many African and Black women, I learned early how to endure — how to be strong, grateful, and composed, even when something inside was hurting.

For a long time, writing was how I stayed alive to myself.

Over time, as I began doing deeper healing work through journaling and reflection, I realised something important: naming what hurt was only the beginning. Many of us can now speak about trauma, culture, and inherited pain — but we are rarely shown how to sit with it safely, or how to step away from it without rejecting ourselves, our families, or our roots.

I had to learn, slowly and imperfectly, how to touch what was hurting within me without collapsing or self-betrayal. No shortcuts. No performances. Just honest, ongoing work.

This blog became a place where that process could be spoken aloud.

What started as personal reflection has grown into a shared space — for women who recognise themselves in these words and are quietly looking for something more grounded than survival. Here, I write about identity, conditioning, boundaries, grief, self-loyalty, and becoming. Not as an expert looking down, but as someone who has walked this path and continues to walk it.

Walking Beside, Not Leading

My mentoring work grows from the same place.

It is not about fixing anyone, rushing healing, or offering solutions. It is about walking beside women who want to do their own inner work — using journaling, reflection, and intentional conversation as tools to unlearn inherited patterns and build a more honest relationship with themselves.

This work is for women who are ready to take responsibility for their healing without carrying it alone. It is not about erasing the past, but about choosing what we pass forward.

I believe deeply that when we are not shown how to tend to ourselves, we repeat what we inherited — often without meaning to. This space exists to interrupt that cycle, gently and consciously.

If you’re here, you don’t need to be certain or ready. You just need to be honest with yourself about wanting something different.

Thank you for being here, and for taking this work seriously.

If something you read resonates, you’re welcome to sit with it, journal through it, leave a comment, or reach out. This space is here to be returned to — not rushed through.

I am not here to lead you. I am here to walk with you, if you choose to do the work.

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