It is mother’s day in the Uk and I wanted to take this opportunity to wish all my lady readers a happy mother’s day. Though I have never birthed children, I am all too aware of the challenges that come with being a mother. I have heard horrific stories of women who lost their lives in their pursuit of children and some who have had to sacrifice so much to raise children. I know too well that being a mother is sacrificial and for many it has been a challenge that has cost them so much – but I am sure many mothers will agree that it has its rewards. So, I wanted to use today to wish anyone that celebrates this day a happy mother’s day and also to remind those that do not celebrate for whatever reason, that it is ok.
Today, I wanted to also take the opportunity to encourage women that want to be mothers but are having challenges due to fertility, financial, relational and any other issues that may have prevented them from being mothers. I also wanted to encourage the many women who have suffered difficult pregnancies that have forever changed them physically and mentally – to the women who have suffered through multiple miscarriages, we stand with you today. To the mothers that have had to bury their children, I am wishing you comfort on this day – it cannot be easy and no words can soothe the pain of your loss.
To the women shamed by society for having caesarean births instead of the ‘natural’ way – I encourage you to stand in your truth. Let no one tell you what is natural, life happens to all of us differently. To those who have become mothers through surrogacy, you are still mothers and let no one tell you differently and to the women who carry children so their fellow sisters can be mothers, well done. I know many will say you get paid but pregnancy can sometimes be risky and no amount of money is enough to hand over a child you have carried for 9 months to be parented by another, so well done. To the single mothers out there, who are shamed for not being able to keep a man or a relationship – keep your eyes on what you want for your life and stop listening to your nay sayers.
To the young ladies who got pregnant out of marriage and chose to keep the pregnancy in the face of backlash and being ostracised, you are strong and you don’t have to figure it all out today, just keep one foot in front of the other. For the women who got pregnant but decided to not carry to term for whatever reason – it was your choice to make and your life to live, let no one shame you for doing what you saw best in light of reasons best know to you. To the women who conceived through sexual abuse and decided to keep and raise the children from their trauma – yours is a bravery I cannot describe in words, I wish you strength in your motherhood.
To every woman out there who wish to be a mother but have simply not been able to conceive for whatever reason, I wish you luck in your journey to motherhood. To the selfless people who are happy to adopt the children on the fringes on society, to those that step up to raise children when their parents are unable to for whatever reason – I wish you all a happy mother’s day.
Wherever you are on your journey in life – I hope you celebrate yourself today whether you are a mother or not. I hope you find reason everyday to celebrate the woman you are and how far you have come.
Thank you for always taking time to read, comment and share – let’s effect change by sharing our experiences.