I bet you’ve forgotten lockdown by now. For me, it’s a time I’ll never shake off. The first few months were brutal. No office. No routine. No distractions. Just me, my thoughts, and the uncomfortable truth that I couldn’t escape my own company. One afternoon, after a frustrating call with my father, I was ranting … Continue reading Why “I’m Okay” Was the Biggest Lie I Told Myself
From Ranting on Paper to Journaling With Purpose
Do you have a way to process your thoughts and feelings at the end of each day? I do! For years, journaling has been my outlet. My notebooks were full of rants, dreams, raw emotions, and half-finished thoughts. It was cathartic — but it often left me stuck. I could pour everything onto the page, … Continue reading From Ranting on Paper to Journaling With Purpose
When Doing Everything Right Still Feels Wrong: Learning to Deal with Disappointment
Have you ever done everything “right” — updated your CV, reached out to people, sent countless emails — and still, nothing changed? How did that feel? This week, while scrolling through social media, I came across a video of a young man sharing his frustrations. He had done it all: rewritten his CV, contacted recruiters, … Continue reading When Doing Everything Right Still Feels Wrong: Learning to Deal with Disappointment
Finding Joy in the Middle of the Grind
Why do we act like happiness is something we have to earn? For years, I believed joy was something you celebrated after the work was done. I was wrong. Recently, I was telling a friend about all the things I had planned — the goals, the deadlines, the next big steps. She listened patiently as … Continue reading Finding Joy in the Middle of the Grind
When the Lens is Cracked, Even the Sun Looks Dangerous!
“When the lens is cracked, even the sun looks dangerous.” I said this to a friend earlier this week after she shared a frustrating experience with someone we both know. On the surface, this person’s reaction to a simple disagreement seemed extreme—but as we peeled back the layers, something became clear. I told my friend, … Continue reading When the Lens is Cracked, Even the Sun Looks Dangerous!
When Perfection Silences You: Choosing Progress Instead.
For too long, I let perfection silence me. Today, I choose progress. I choose to tell the stories that have lived inside me—raw, unfinished, and real. There Are Stories I’ve Never Told Not because I didn’t believe in them, but because I was waiting for them to be perfect. As a child, I was an … Continue reading When Perfection Silences You: Choosing Progress Instead.
Coming Home to Yourself
It was a quiet Friday morning. The breeze softly moved the linen-and-cotton blend curtains—cream, taupe, and gold—at my bedroom window. Through the cracks, I watched the sunrise painting the sky in layers of orange and yellow. My Echo Dot played gentle rain sounds beside me as I read a romance novel I’d downloaded during a … Continue reading Coming Home to Yourself
Unmasking the Soft Feminine Era: Who Are We Really Performing For?
There’s a quiet movement happening among women. A shift in tone, in energy. We’re calling it the “soft feminine era”. It’s everywhere—on TikTok, in journal prompts, in the slow rebranding of self-care. It tells us to lean into ease, to receive rather than chase, to soften our edges, tap into our intuition, rest more, talk … Continue reading Unmasking the Soft Feminine Era: Who Are We Really Performing For?
The Truth About Lies: Where Do We Draw the Line?
We’ve all told a little white lie, haven’t we? That tiny fib to get out of trouble, or maybe to avoid an event we’d rather not attend. It’s almost second nature—a quick fix to spare someone’s feelings or save ourselves from an awkward situation. But here’s the question: Is it right? Should we prioritise honesty, … Continue reading The Truth About Lies: Where Do We Draw the Line?
Sisters, Not Rivals: Why Women Must Stand Together
In April 2021, I posed a question on this blog: Are women their own worst enemies? My question was fuelled by an incident in Sri Lanka, where a beauty pageant turned into a public display of jealousy and aggression among women. That, along with personal experiences, led me to consider whether women truly worked against … Continue reading Sisters, Not Rivals: Why Women Must Stand Together
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