Category: growth
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When Did I Become Everything to Everyone and Nothing to Myself?
Ever felt like you are the one everyone calls when they need help? The one who can be relied on to show up – but the same people never show up when you call. The strong one who carries everyone silently – the one who is fatigued and carries a sense of sadness no words…
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You’re Not Stuck. You’re Afraid to Leave.
You feel stuck… like no matter what you do, your life isn’t moving. You want progress — you see the milestones others celebrate and you want them too. But no matter what you do, you continue to celebrate others’ milestones while nothing seems to shift for you. You would give anything to see the progress…
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You Can’t Go Back to Who You Used to Be
On a quiet commute, I found myself asking a question I couldn’t ignore: what is the point of all this? What followed was a slow, uncomfortable unraveling — one that forced me to confront who I had been, and who I was no longer willing to be.
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You Already Know What You Need to Let Go Of.
You already know what you need to let go of. Not because it’s broken, but because it’s costing you more than you’re willing to admit. This is a reflection on self-loyalty, quiet truths, and the strength it takes to release what no longer aligns—even when your heart is still holding on.
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When Discipline Becomes the Only Language of Love
We often grow up calling pain “discipline” and fear “respect.” But what happens when humiliation becomes the language of love — and we carry that into adulthood? I wrote about a story that stayed with me for years, and what it revealed about how abuse shapes what we tolerate. Change begins when we name what…
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What Childhood Friendships Taught Me About Adult Boundaries!
A reflective essay on friendship, attachment, and self-betrayal — and what it means to choose connection without losing yourself.
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The Discomfort of Becoming: Why Outgrowing Yourself is Necessary.
I used to mistake the discomfort of growth for losing myself. But I realized: I wasn’t losing who I was—I was shedding what I had outgrown. If your cocoon no longer fits, this reflection is for you.
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Aim at Nothing, You Hit Nothing: Why Alignment Matters More Than Goals
A single line from a film stopped me in my tracks: “Aim at nothing, and you hit nothing.” Not because it was profound — but because I finally understood what it wasn’t talking about. This reflection explores why aiming inward matters more than New Year goals.
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Choosing Joy on My Own Terms
For the first time, I didn’t feel like I was on the outside looking in. This Christmas, I didn’t perform joy or tradition — I chose to be present. What I found was a quieter, gentler kind of joy that met me exactly where I was.
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Accountability to Whom? Rethinking Why We Police Women’s Choices
In the past few years, I’ve noticed a growing chorus — online, in conversations, even in women’s spaces — repeating the same question: “But how do we hold women accountable? It appears every time a woman’s personal decision enters public discussion. And the more I hear it, the more I find myself questioning what people…
Koya Nkrumah 