In the past few years, I’ve noticed a growing chorus — online, in conversations, even in women’s spaces — repeating the same question: “But how do we hold women accountable? It appears every time a woman’s personal decision enters public discussion. And the more I hear it, the more I find myself questioning what people … Continue reading Accountability to Whom? Rethinking Why We Police Women’s Choices
We Fight Systems, Not Sisters
Here’s something I never thought I would say out loud: Some of the loudest “feminist spaces” online today feel less like community… and more like competition. Competition for who is the “better feminist.” Competition for whose anger is the most justified. Competition for who can shout the loudest, drag the hardest, correct the quickest. Somewhere … Continue reading We Fight Systems, Not Sisters
The Cost of Being a Black Woman Who Speaks Up
What Is It About My Anger That You Are Afraid Of? My anger lives in my throat. Not because I don’t have words — trust me, I do — but because I have learned what it costs to use them. There are things I wanted to say, things I should have said, moments where my … Continue reading The Cost of Being a Black Woman Who Speaks Up
When Men Cry Over Losing the Right to Marry Girl Children
There’s a video circulating online that’s hard to unsee. A grown man — face twisted in outrage — lamenting that Somalia’s parliament has betrayed men by ratifying a law that protects children. His complaint? That the government has stolen their right to marry girls. Not just children — girl children. Because no one is marrying … Continue reading When Men Cry Over Losing the Right to Marry Girl Children
Sisters, Not Rivals: Why Women Must Stand Together
In April 2021, I posed a question on this blog: Are women their own worst enemies? My question was fuelled by an incident in Sri Lanka, where a beauty pageant turned into a public display of jealousy and aggression among women. That, along with personal experiences, led me to consider whether women truly worked against … Continue reading Sisters, Not Rivals: Why Women Must Stand Together
Koya Nkrumah 