There’s a video circulating online that’s hard to unsee. A grown man — face twisted in outrage — lamenting that Somalia’s parliament has betrayed men by ratifying a law that protects children. His complaint? That the government has stolen their right to marry girls. Not just children — girl children. Because no one is marrying … Continue reading When Men Cry Over Losing the Right to Marry Girl Children
Naming the Sickness: When Culture Protects Predators and Silences Victims
This week, three stories broke me open. A headmaster was caught on video touching a student inappropriately — in the same community where I grew up. Another man, also a headmaster, was filmed raping a child. And then on TikTok, a Ghanaian man bragged about sleeping with a woman who woke up not knowing how … Continue reading Naming the Sickness: When Culture Protects Predators and Silences Victims
Standing Your Ground: Reclaiming the Strength I Almost Gave Away
When I was twenty, I lost my mother to cancer. Through my teens I had watched her fight with quiet courage, and I still feel the imprint of her kindness and extraordinary work ethic. In many ways, I carry her grace. Yet I’ve also always known that I’m my father’s daughter—especially in one key trait: … Continue reading Standing Your Ground: Reclaiming the Strength I Almost Gave Away
Choosing Myself: Navigating Identity Between Two Worlds.
When I first moved to the UK, every outing felt like a doorway to something new. I said yes to almost every invitation, eager to learn, to belong. So when I got invited to my first party, I pictured a big meal, laughter around a table—the kind of gathering I’d known all my life. The … Continue reading Choosing Myself: Navigating Identity Between Two Worlds.
Beyond Dress Sizes: An African Woman’s Journey to Body Freedom.
Coming Home to My Body—how I broke up with diet culture and learned to love my Afrocentric self. I was in college when I overheard two boys talking about me. “She’s alright,” one said, “but she has bad skin.” How rude! I didn’t even have acne in my early teens, but I struggled in my … Continue reading Beyond Dress Sizes: An African Woman’s Journey to Body Freedom.
You Are Not Late: Redefining Milestones on My Own Terms
By 28, I was “supposed” to be married with 2.5 children, a family home, a dog, and a fulfilling career. But those were never my dreams. I wasn’t the little girl planning a wedding in her head. My parents and guardians had their blueprint, and they repeated it so often that I stopped myself from … Continue reading You Are Not Late: Redefining Milestones on My Own Terms
Why “I’m Okay” Was the Biggest Lie I Told Myself
I bet you’ve forgotten lockdown by now. For me, it’s a time I’ll never shake off. The first few months were brutal. No office. No routine. No distractions. Just me, my thoughts, and the uncomfortable truth that I couldn’t escape my own company. One afternoon, after a frustrating call with my father, I was ranting … Continue reading Why “I’m Okay” Was the Biggest Lie I Told Myself
From Ranting on Paper to Journaling With Purpose
Do you have a way to process your thoughts and feelings at the end of each day? I do! For years, journaling has been my outlet. My notebooks were full of rants, dreams, raw emotions, and half-finished thoughts. It was cathartic — but it often left me stuck. I could pour everything onto the page, … Continue reading From Ranting on Paper to Journaling With Purpose
When Doing Everything Right Still Feels Wrong: Learning to Deal with Disappointment
Have you ever done everything “right” — updated your CV, reached out to people, sent countless emails — and still, nothing changed? How did that feel? This week, while scrolling through social media, I came across a video of a young man sharing his frustrations. He had done it all: rewritten his CV, contacted recruiters, … Continue reading When Doing Everything Right Still Feels Wrong: Learning to Deal with Disappointment
Finding Joy in the Middle of the Grind
Why do we act like happiness is something we have to earn? For years, I believed joy was something you celebrated after the work was done. I was wrong. Recently, I was telling a friend about all the things I had planned — the goals, the deadlines, the next big steps. She listened patiently as … Continue reading Finding Joy in the Middle of the Grind
Koya Nkrumah 