First posted 29th November 2020 I recently read about a pastor to the stars who had been fired from his position in the church because he had failed on moral grounds. It was further revealed that this pastor had cheated on his wife of seventeen years - the cheating incident was not a one off … Continue reading Why are women held to higher morals than men?
Category: Relationships
Dealing with an overbearing person!
First posted April 2022 When I was twenty years old, I lost my mother to cancer - through my teens, I had witnessed her battle the disease that would eventually steal her from our family. She was a kind person who made an impact on everyone she met and talking to a friend recently, I … Continue reading Dealing with an overbearing person!
Hey ladies, are you looking after yourself financially?
This month marks the second anniversary of this blog - it has been an incredible journey, one I never imagined I would go on. There's been ups and downs and days when I truly felt I was not reaching anyone, but in those times, I would have a reader reach out - in some cases, … Continue reading Hey ladies, are you looking after yourself financially?
Let’s refute some misconceptions about being a single woman!
Updated post from 20th September 2020. Growing up, I never thought much about getting married – this was not something I dreamt or wished for. In my mind I was always a career woman and though I would have someone in my life, I never thought about marriage. Coming from the society I grew up … Continue reading Let’s refute some misconceptions about being a single woman!
Let’s talk about husband material, shall we!
Last week, while browsing social media, I came across a post on twitter I could not ignore, I had to comment. The writer of the post was narrating how he had lost the woman he intended to marry in a road accident. He had the compassion of most people in his comments, unfortunately, he did … Continue reading Let’s talk about husband material, shall we!
Help! I am in a relationship with someone who is not available!
Paraphrased email from reader. Q- Hello Koya, I have recently started dating a gentleman I met on a night out with my friends. He was very intense and into me from the very beginning - he told me what he wanted from our relationship from the word go and I threw caution to the wind … Continue reading Help! I am in a relationship with someone who is not available!
When disrespect is shrouded in humour!
Previously posted Jan 2021 We all need a bit of humour in our lives to make the serious moments more bearable – over the years,I have learned to laugh at my not so proud moments and mistakes after the initial despair . Most importantly, I am learning to quiet the very harsh critic that lives … Continue reading When disrespect is shrouded in humour!
Must every woman carry and bear children to be a mother?
Updated post from October 2020 A Couple of years ago when I wrote about leaving an abusive relationship, I touched on a few cultural expectations in marriage and how women are blamed when a marriage goes wrong. Another dimension to this is when the marriage produces no children; it is automatically assumed that this is the … Continue reading Must every woman carry and bear children to be a mother?
Stop explaining yourself to people who will not listen.
First published May 2021 Not too long ago, I was having a heart to heart conversation with a very close friend. I was telling her of a betrayal I had suffered at the hands of someone I trusted very much. She was shocked by what I was telling her and asked me why I never … Continue reading Stop explaining yourself to people who will not listen.
Dealing with overbearing people.
When I was twenty years old, I lost my mother to cancer - through my teens, I had witnessed her battle the disease that would eventually steal her from our family. She was a kind person who made an impact on everyone she met and talking to a friend recently, I noticed that I had … Continue reading Dealing with overbearing people.