Updated post from 20th September 2020. Growing up, I never thought much about getting married – this was not something I dreamt or wished for. In my mind I was always a career woman and though I would have someone in my life, I never thought about marriage. Coming from the society I grew up … Continue reading Let’s refute some misconceptions about being a single woman!
Last week, while browsing social media, I came across a post on twitter I could not ignore, I had to comment. The writer of the post was narrating how he had lost the woman he intended to marry in a road accident. He had the compassion of most people in his comments, unfortunately, he did … Continue reading Let’s talk about husband material, shall we!
Paraphrased email from reader. Q- Hello Koya, I have recently started dating a gentleman I met on a night out with my friends. He was very intense and into me from the very beginning - he told me what he wanted from our relationship from the word go and I threw caution to the wind … Continue reading Help! I am in a relationship with someone who is not available!
Previously posted Jan 2021 We all need a bit of humour in our lives to make the serious moments more bearable – over the years,I have learned to laugh at my not so proud moments and mistakes after the initial despair . Most importantly, I am learning to quiet the very harsh critic that lives … Continue reading When disrespect is shrouded in humour!
Updated post from October 2020 A Couple of years ago when I wrote about leaving an abusive relationship, I touched on a few cultural expectations in marriage and how women are blamed when a marriage goes wrong. Another dimension to this is when the marriage produces no children; it is automatically assumed that this is the … Continue reading Must every woman carry and bear children to be a mother?
First published May 2021 Not too long ago, I was having a heart to heart conversation with a very close friend. I was telling her of a betrayal I had suffered at the hands of someone I trusted very much. She was shocked by what I was telling her and asked me why I never … Continue reading Stop explaining yourself to people who will not listen.
When I was twenty years old, I lost my mother to cancer - through my teens, I had witnessed her battle the disease that would eventually steal her from our family. She was a kind person who made an impact on everyone she met and talking to a friend recently, I noticed that I had … Continue reading Dealing with overbearing people.
First posted 6th June 2021 - updated. When I was growing up, there was a toxic trend where boys/men would have sex with a girl and go round telling their friends about their experience with said girl. It would not be long before everyone in the neighbourhood/school would be aware of what had transpired between … Continue reading Why are men so concerned about a woman’s body count?
A few weeks ago, I was talking to a friend who was navigating the dating scene and she had so many horror stories to tell about her experiences. As well as these horror stories were hilarious ones that I felt belonged in a poorly made romcom, lol - my friend’s experiences were a mixture of … Continue reading Would you date you?
So, a bit of a story time - a good friend of mine visited me recently; I had not seen her for while and was happy to see her when she dropped over at mine after work. While we were catching up, the discussion moved on to another person we knew whom we had not … Continue reading Why are people so quick to believe bad things they hear about good people?