This month marks the second anniversary of this blog - it has been an incredible journey, one I never imagined I would go on. There's been ups and downs and days when I truly felt I was not reaching anyone, but in those times, I would have a reader reach out - in some cases, … Continue reading Hey ladies, are you looking after yourself financially?
Let’s refute some misconceptions about being a single woman!
Updated post from 20th September 2020. Growing up, I never thought much about getting married – this was not something I dreamt or wished for. In my mind I was always a career woman and though I would have someone in my life, I never thought about marriage. Coming from the society I grew up … Continue reading Let’s refute some misconceptions about being a single woman!
Let’s talk about husband material, shall we!
Last week, while browsing social media, I came across a post on twitter I could not ignore, I had to comment. The writer of the post was narrating how he had lost the woman he intended to marry in a road accident. He had the compassion of most people in his comments, unfortunately, he did … Continue reading Let’s talk about husband material, shall we!
Help! I am in a relationship with someone who is not available!
Paraphrased email from reader. Q- Hello Koya, I have recently started dating a gentleman I met on a night out with my friends. He was very intense and into me from the very beginning - he told me what he wanted from our relationship from the word go and I threw caution to the wind … Continue reading Help! I am in a relationship with someone who is not available!
When disrespect is shrouded in humour!
Previously posted Jan 2021 We all need a bit of humour in our lives to make the serious moments more bearable – over the years,I have learned to laugh at my not so proud moments and mistakes after the initial despair . Most importantly, I am learning to quiet the very harsh critic that lives … Continue reading When disrespect is shrouded in humour!
Must every woman carry and bear children to be a mother?
Updated post from October 2020 A Couple of years ago when I wrote about leaving an abusive relationship, I touched on a few cultural expectations in marriage and how women are blamed when a marriage goes wrong. Another dimension to this is when the marriage produces no children; it is automatically assumed that this is the … Continue reading Must every woman carry and bear children to be a mother?
Stop explaining yourself to people who will not listen.
First published May 2021 Not too long ago, I was having a heart to heart conversation with a very close friend. I was telling her of a betrayal I had suffered at the hands of someone I trusted very much. She was shocked by what I was telling her and asked me why I never … Continue reading Stop explaining yourself to people who will not listen.
Dealing with overbearing people.
When I was twenty years old, I lost my mother to cancer - through my teens, I had witnessed her battle the disease that would eventually steal her from our family. She was a kind person who made an impact on everyone she met and talking to a friend recently, I noticed that I had … Continue reading Dealing with overbearing people.
Why are men so concerned about a woman’s body count?
First posted 6th June 2021 - updated. When I was growing up, there was a toxic trend where boys/men would have sex with a girl and go round telling their friends about their experience with said girl. It would not be long before everyone in the neighbourhood/school would be aware of what had transpired between … Continue reading Why are men so concerned about a woman’s body count?
Would you date you?
A few weeks ago, I was talking to a friend who was navigating the dating scene and she had so many horror stories to tell about her experiences. As well as these horror stories were hilarious ones that I felt belonged in a poorly made romcom, lol - my friend’s experiences were a mixture of … Continue reading Would you date you?
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