I was just a little girl in Ghana when I first heard Motherless Child—that haunting African American spiritual that echoed through my bones. Even then, I understood loneliness. I was just a little girl, yet the lyrics lodged themselves deep within me. I had spent much of my life feeling like a motherless child, and … Continue reading Why Women Must Prioritise Themselves in Motherhood Choices!
Is hitting children discipline?
In many cultures and some religions, physical punishment of children is encouraged - the society I come from encourages this and many people have used a famous Christian bible verse to justify this practice. Years ago, I was sat in a meeting and the speaker who claimed to be passionate about fatherhood, especially for black … Continue reading Is hitting children discipline?
Let’s refute some misconceptions about being a single woman!
Updated post from 20th September 2020. Growing up, I never thought much about getting married – this was not something I dreamt or wished for. In my mind I was always a career woman and though I would have someone in my life, I never thought about marriage. Coming from the society I grew up … Continue reading Let’s refute some misconceptions about being a single woman!
Let’s talk about husband material, shall we!
Last week, while browsing social media, I came across a post on twitter I could not ignore, I had to comment. The writer of the post was narrating how he had lost the woman he intended to marry in a road accident. He had the compassion of most people in his comments, unfortunately, he did … Continue reading Let’s talk about husband material, shall we!
Help! I am in a relationship with someone who is not available!
Paraphrased email from reader. Q- Hello Koya, I have recently started dating a gentleman I met on a night out with my friends. He was very intense and into me from the very beginning - he told me what he wanted from our relationship from the word go and I threw caution to the wind … Continue reading Help! I am in a relationship with someone who is not available!
Has your man been snatched?
First posted 14th Feb 2021 I recently came across a radio show where a woman was narrating how her husband had been snatched by another woman. She was narrating her story on a talk show with mostly women panellists - I was intrigued how they all came to the conclusion that she should not leave … Continue reading Has your man been snatched?
Ever had people invalidate your feelings?
Ever had a conversation with someone about something that was very real to you only for them to turn around and negate your experiences because how you felt was not their experience? Well, that is exactly what happened in a recent conversation! To be honest, I was aware this happened and I was guilty of … Continue reading Ever had people invalidate your feelings?
When you see the red flags, run!
A couple of weeks ago, I came across a social media post of an image of a young woman who had swollen lips and eyes due to domestic violence. She had taken one of the images when she was in hospital and there was a video of her distressed in her hospital bed. She stated … Continue reading When you see the red flags, run!
When people offend and act shocked when you get offended!
Last week, on my usual perusal of social media, I came across a video of a young man who was being auditioned for the role of a radio/tv personality. The panel was made of three women in the media and this video caught my interest because, when the judges on the panel looked up this … Continue reading When people offend and act shocked when you get offended!
What is all this Slut and Victim Shaming?
Last week, I was having a chat with a friend - just catching up on life and I brought up a certain observation I had made about Ghanaian radio stations and how somehow almost every advert on there was about sexual enhancing products. We both laughed about this especially about a malt drink advert that … Continue reading What is all this Slut and Victim Shaming?
Koya Nkrumah 