Let’s talk about that Bible verse that nearly ruined my life. "Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails." (Proverbs 19:21). Sounds holy, right? Sounds comforting. Bullshit. For years, that verse didn’t comfort me—it strangled me. I became so obsessed with "finding God’s will" that I forgot … Continue reading Breaking Free: The Danger of Waiting on God’s Plan
From “Don’t Date” to “Get Married Now”: Are We Setting Up Our Women to Fail?
Last year, I came across a TikTok video by a Nigerian content creator that really struck a chord. She asked a simple but powerful question: Why aren’t African girls taught how to navigate the dating scene? Her frustration was clear — and honestly, I felt it too. She was right! Growing up, many African girls, myself … Continue reading From “Don’t Date” to “Get Married Now”: Are We Setting Up Our Women to Fail?
Why Women Must Prioritise Themselves in Motherhood Choices!
I was just a little girl in Ghana when I first heard Motherless Child—that haunting African American spiritual that echoed through my bones. Even then, I understood loneliness. I was just a little girl, yet the lyrics lodged themselves deep within me. I had spent much of my life feeling like a motherless child, and … Continue reading Why Women Must Prioritise Themselves in Motherhood Choices!
Would you be friends with yourself?
“If you have two friends in your lifetime, you’re lucky. If you have one good friend, you’re more than lucky.” I have been seeing this quote by S.E Hinton several times on social media - and while I agree with the quote to some extent, I strongly believe that our friendships are not based on … Continue reading Would you be friends with yourself?
Are your friendships evolving?
Every Easter, I have a friend that shows up on my doorstep with an Easter egg for me. It’s an act that always brings me so much joy and true to her nature, she was on my doorstep this year with an Easter egg just for me. I have been friends with this person for … Continue reading Are your friendships evolving?
Why did no one teach me how to make and maintain friendships?
When I was six, I came home one day with a little girl and introduced her as my sister, it was day one of my family's visit to my granny - lol. I insisted that my new friend stayed for lunch and my mum obliged me - it was later in my late teens as … Continue reading Why did no one teach me how to make and maintain friendships?
Dealing with an overbearing person!
First posted April 2022 When I was twenty years old, I lost my mother to cancer - through my teens, I had witnessed her battle the disease that would eventually steal her from our family. She was a kind person who made an impact on everyone she met and talking to a friend recently, I … Continue reading Dealing with an overbearing person!
Hey ladies, are you looking after yourself financially?
This month marks the second anniversary of this blog - it has been an incredible journey, one I never imagined I would go on. There's been ups and downs and days when I truly felt I was not reaching anyone, but in those times, I would have a reader reach out - in some cases, … Continue reading Hey ladies, are you looking after yourself financially?
Let’s talk about husband material, shall we!
Last week, while browsing social media, I came across a post on twitter I could not ignore, I had to comment. The writer of the post was narrating how he had lost the woman he intended to marry in a road accident. He had the compassion of most people in his comments, unfortunately, he did … Continue reading Let’s talk about husband material, shall we!
Help! I am in a relationship with someone who is not available!
Paraphrased email from reader. Q- Hello Koya, I have recently started dating a gentleman I met on a night out with my friends. He was very intense and into me from the very beginning - he told me what he wanted from our relationship from the word go and I threw caution to the wind … Continue reading Help! I am in a relationship with someone who is not available!
Koya Nkrumah 