“Help me.” From the outside, it looked like strength. Inside, it was survival. In this piece, I reflect on the hidden fatigue behind the Strong Black Woman label and what it means to stop performing resilience for the comfort of others. If you’ve ever been the one expected to hold everything together, this reflection is for you.
What Childhood Friendships Taught Me About Adult Boundaries!
A reflective essay on friendship, attachment, and self-betrayal — and what it means to choose connection without losing yourself.
When Family, Forgiveness, and Christmas Ask Too Much
A reflection on no contact, protection, and choosing peace As Christmas approaches, I’ve been thinking about family — and about the expectations that quietly come with this season. I recently came across a clip online where the topic of adult children choosing to go no contact with their parents was being discussed. The responses were … Continue reading When Family, Forgiveness, and Christmas Ask Too Much
Standing Your Ground: Reclaiming the Strength I Almost Gave Away
When I was twenty, I lost my mother to cancer. Through my teens I had watched her fight with quiet courage, and I still feel the imprint of her kindness and extraordinary work ethic. In many ways, I carry her grace. Yet I’ve also always known that I’m my father’s daughter—especially in one key trait: … Continue reading Standing Your Ground: Reclaiming the Strength I Almost Gave Away
Lessons From 2023!
On January 1st 2023, I posted that I was choosing peace above all! Choosing peace in 2022 had served me well - especially in my dealings with family and family related issues; so I thought, why not continue on the same trajectory for 2023! What I forgot was that my choosing peace did not guarantee … Continue reading Lessons From 2023!
Is it time to set some boundaries?
This post was originally published on 27/09/2020 and updated 03/10/2021. In a previous post about being truly happy, I shared that at the beginning of lockdown due to Covid-19, I started speaking to a psychologist; this was one of the best decisions I had made in a long time. This experience changed me immensely and … Continue reading Is it time to set some boundaries?
When disrespect and mockery is disguised as humour!
We all need a bit of humour in our lives to make the serious moments more bearable - over the years,I have learned to laugh at my not so proud moments and mistakes after the initial despair . Most importantly, I am learning to quiet the very harsh critic that lives rent free inside my … Continue reading When disrespect and mockery is disguised as humour!
Koya Nkrumah 