“Help me.” From the outside, it looked like strength. Inside, it was survival. In this piece, I reflect on the hidden fatigue behind the Strong Black Woman label and what it means to stop performing resilience for the comfort of others. If you’ve ever been the one expected to hold everything together, this reflection is for you.
What Childhood Friendships Taught Me About Adult Boundaries!
A reflective essay on friendship, attachment, and self-betrayal — and what it means to choose connection without losing yourself.
When Family, Forgiveness, and Christmas Ask Too Much
A reflection on no contact, protection, and choosing peace As Christmas approaches, I’ve been thinking about family — and about the expectations that quietly come with this season. I recently came across a clip online where the topic of adult children choosing to go no contact with their parents was being discussed. The responses were … Continue reading When Family, Forgiveness, and Christmas Ask Too Much
When the Lens is Cracked, Even the Sun Looks Dangerous!
“When the lens is cracked, even the sun looks dangerous.” I said this to a friend earlier this week after she shared a frustrating experience with someone we both know. On the surface, this person’s reaction to a simple disagreement seemed extreme—but as we peeled back the layers, something became clear. I told my friend, … Continue reading When the Lens is Cracked, Even the Sun Looks Dangerous!
Coming Home to Yourself
It was a quiet Friday morning. The breeze softly moved the linen-and-cotton blend curtains—cream, taupe, and gold—at my bedroom window. Through the cracks, I watched the sunrise painting the sky in layers of orange and yellow. My Echo Dot played gentle rain sounds beside me as I read a romance novel I’d downloaded during a … Continue reading Coming Home to Yourself
Would You Stay If Your Partner Lied About a Whole Child?
African social media has been on fire these past few days — all thanks to a chaotic video involving a Nigerian couple and their deeply complicated family drama. The video sparked fierce debate online, dividing audiences around the world, and after reading countless comments from both sides, I just had to share my take. Because … Continue reading Would You Stay If Your Partner Lied About a Whole Child?
Find the strength to let go!
On my way to work one cold November morning, as I waited at a junction to turn right, another driver drove into the back of my car. I remember being confused and shocked however I did not remember much of my journey up to that point - apart from the music I was listening to … Continue reading Find the strength to let go!
Koya Nkrumah 