What Is It About My Anger That You Are Afraid Of? My anger lives in my throat. Not because I don’t have words — trust me, I do — but because I have learned what it costs to use them. There are things I wanted to say, things I should have said, moments where my … Continue reading The Cost of Being a Black Woman Who Speaks Up
When Doing Everything Right Still Feels Wrong: Learning to Deal with Disappointment
Have you ever done everything “right” — updated your CV, reached out to people, sent countless emails — and still, nothing changed? How did that feel? This week, while scrolling through social media, I came across a video of a young man sharing his frustrations. He had done it all: rewritten his CV, contacted recruiters, … Continue reading When Doing Everything Right Still Feels Wrong: Learning to Deal with Disappointment
When Perfection Silences You: Choosing Progress Instead.
For too long, I let perfection silence me. Today, I choose progress. I choose to tell the stories that have lived inside me—raw, unfinished, and real. There Are Stories I’ve Never Told Not because I didn’t believe in them, but because I was waiting for them to be perfect. As a child, I was an … Continue reading When Perfection Silences You: Choosing Progress Instead.
Why We Sing ‘R-E-S-P-E-C-T’ But Rarely Give It
Aretha Franklin gave us one of the most iconic hits of all time. I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s had a solo concert moment or been on a dance floor shouting out, “R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me!” It brings up joyful memories for many of us—but lately, I’ve been thinking … Continue reading Why We Sing ‘R-E-S-P-E-C-T’ But Rarely Give It
Would You Stay If Your Partner Lied About a Whole Child?
African social media has been on fire these past few days — all thanks to a chaotic video involving a Nigerian couple and their deeply complicated family drama. The video sparked fierce debate online, dividing audiences around the world, and after reading countless comments from both sides, I just had to share my take. Because … Continue reading Would You Stay If Your Partner Lied About a Whole Child?
Embracing the Present: Lessons from My Year Off
It has been a while—indeed, it has. When I hit “publish” on December 31st, 2022, I didn’t think it would take me over a year to return to this space. But life, as it often does, had other ideas. The struggle to come back, to write as consistently as I once did, felt like … Continue reading Embracing the Present: Lessons from My Year Off
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