What Is It About My Anger That You Are Afraid Of? My anger lives in my throat. Not because I don’t have words — trust me, I do — but because I have learned what it costs to use them. There are things I wanted to say, things I should have said, moments where my … Continue reading The Cost of Being a Black Woman Who Speaks Up
When Beauty Becomes Currency: The True Cost of Trading Youth for Security
Last week, social media erupted with videos of Regina Daniels, the young actress who once made headlines for marrying Nigerian billionaire Ned Nwoko. She was barely eighteen when the world watched her step into a life that seemed paved with gold. A few short years later, the same world is now watching her unravel — … Continue reading When Beauty Becomes Currency: The True Cost of Trading Youth for Security
Why “I’m Okay” Was the Biggest Lie I Told Myself
I bet you’ve forgotten lockdown by now. For me, it’s a time I’ll never shake off. The first few months were brutal. No office. No routine. No distractions. Just me, my thoughts, and the uncomfortable truth that I couldn’t escape my own company. One afternoon, after a frustrating call with my father, I was ranting … Continue reading Why “I’m Okay” Was the Biggest Lie I Told Myself
When Doing Everything Right Still Feels Wrong: Learning to Deal with Disappointment
Have you ever done everything “right” — updated your CV, reached out to people, sent countless emails — and still, nothing changed? How did that feel? This week, while scrolling through social media, I came across a video of a young man sharing his frustrations. He had done it all: rewritten his CV, contacted recruiters, … Continue reading When Doing Everything Right Still Feels Wrong: Learning to Deal with Disappointment
When the Lens is Cracked, Even the Sun Looks Dangerous!
“When the lens is cracked, even the sun looks dangerous.” I said this to a friend earlier this week after she shared a frustrating experience with someone we both know. On the surface, this person’s reaction to a simple disagreement seemed extreme—but as we peeled back the layers, something became clear. I told my friend, … Continue reading When the Lens is Cracked, Even the Sun Looks Dangerous!
When Perfection Silences You: Choosing Progress Instead.
For too long, I let perfection silence me. Today, I choose progress. I choose to tell the stories that have lived inside me—raw, unfinished, and real. There Are Stories I’ve Never Told Not because I didn’t believe in them, but because I was waiting for them to be perfect. As a child, I was an … Continue reading When Perfection Silences You: Choosing Progress Instead.
Why We Sing ‘R-E-S-P-E-C-T’ But Rarely Give It
Aretha Franklin gave us one of the most iconic hits of all time. I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s had a solo concert moment or been on a dance floor shouting out, “R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me!” It brings up joyful memories for many of us—but lately, I’ve been thinking … Continue reading Why We Sing ‘R-E-S-P-E-C-T’ But Rarely Give It
Would You Stay If Your Partner Lied About a Whole Child?
African social media has been on fire these past few days — all thanks to a chaotic video involving a Nigerian couple and their deeply complicated family drama. The video sparked fierce debate online, dividing audiences around the world, and after reading countless comments from both sides, I just had to share my take. Because … Continue reading Would You Stay If Your Partner Lied About a Whole Child?
Embracing the Present: Lessons from My Year Off
It has been a while—indeed, it has. When I hit “publish” on December 31st, 2022, I didn’t think it would take me over a year to return to this space. But life, as it often does, had other ideas. The struggle to come back, to write as consistently as I once did, felt like … Continue reading Embracing the Present: Lessons from My Year Off
Lessons From 2023!
On January 1st 2023, I posted that I was choosing peace above all! Choosing peace in 2022 had served me well - especially in my dealings with family and family related issues; so I thought, why not continue on the same trajectory for 2023! What I forgot was that my choosing peace did not guarantee … Continue reading Lessons From 2023!
Koya Nkrumah 