In the past few years, I’ve noticed a growing chorus — online, in conversations, even in women’s spaces — repeating the same question: “But how do we hold women accountable? It appears every time a woman’s personal decision enters public discussion. And the more I hear it, the more I find myself questioning what people … Continue reading Accountability to Whom? Rethinking Why We Police Women’s Choices
We Fight Systems, Not Sisters
Here’s something I never thought I would say out loud: Some of the loudest “feminist spaces” online today feel less like community… and more like competition. Competition for who is the “better feminist.” Competition for whose anger is the most justified. Competition for who can shout the loudest, drag the hardest, correct the quickest. Somewhere … Continue reading We Fight Systems, Not Sisters
Unmasking the Soft Feminine Era: Who Are We Really Performing For?
There’s a quiet movement happening among women. A shift in tone, in energy. We’re calling it the “soft feminine era”. It’s everywhere—on TikTok, in journal prompts, in the slow rebranding of self-care. It tells us to lean into ease, to receive rather than chase, to soften our edges, tap into our intuition, rest more, talk … Continue reading Unmasking the Soft Feminine Era: Who Are We Really Performing For?
Sisters, Not Rivals: Why Women Must Stand Together
In April 2021, I posed a question on this blog: Are women their own worst enemies? My question was fuelled by an incident in Sri Lanka, where a beauty pageant turned into a public display of jealousy and aggression among women. That, along with personal experiences, led me to consider whether women truly worked against … Continue reading Sisters, Not Rivals: Why Women Must Stand Together
Why I feel most churches are not safe places for women!
If you have been reading this blog, then you would already have read that I grew up attending church. Over the course of my life, church would play important roles in the choices I made and how I spent my time, resources and talent. You would also have read that just before the global lockdown … Continue reading Why I feel most churches are not safe places for women!
Why are women held to higher morals than men?
First posted 29th November 2020 I recently read about a pastor to the stars who had been fired from his position in the church because he had failed on moral grounds. It was further revealed that this pastor had cheated on his wife of seventeen years - the cheating incident was not a one off … Continue reading Why are women held to higher morals than men?
Must every woman carry and bear children to be a mother?
Updated post from October 2020 A Couple of years ago when I wrote about leaving an abusive relationship, I touched on a few cultural expectations in marriage and how women are blamed when a marriage goes wrong. Another dimension to this is when the marriage produces no children; it is automatically assumed that this is the … Continue reading Must every woman carry and bear children to be a mother?
Are gender roles and expectations putting pressure on women?
During the inauguration of the new president and his vice in the USA, the world witnessed the very first second gentleman in the history of the United States. For some, it was refreshing to see a woman in the limelight and her man supporting her - this was very different from the norm of women … Continue reading Are gender roles and expectations putting pressure on women?
Are you truly happy?
Like most Africans who practice christianity, I always end the year in church welcoming in the new year. However, at the end of 2019, I decided to stay home and not go to church like I usually do. Sacrilege! I know, very out of character from how I have been conditioned to behave and act. … Continue reading Are you truly happy?
Koya Nkrumah 