A reflection on no contact, protection, and choosing peace As Christmas approaches, I’ve been thinking about family — and about the expectations that quietly come with this season. I recently came across a clip online where the topic of adult children choosing to go no contact with their parents was being discussed. The responses were … Continue reading When Family, Forgiveness, and Christmas Ask Too Much
Accountability to Whom? Rethinking Why We Police Women’s Choices
In the past few years, I’ve noticed a growing chorus — online, in conversations, even in women’s spaces — repeating the same question: “But how do we hold women accountable? It appears every time a woman’s personal decision enters public discussion. And the more I hear it, the more I find myself questioning what people … Continue reading Accountability to Whom? Rethinking Why We Police Women’s Choices
We Fight Systems, Not Sisters
Here’s something I never thought I would say out loud: Some of the loudest “feminist spaces” online today feel less like community… and more like competition. Competition for who is the “better feminist.” Competition for whose anger is the most justified. Competition for who can shout the loudest, drag the hardest, correct the quickest. Somewhere … Continue reading We Fight Systems, Not Sisters
The Cost of Being a Black Woman Who Speaks Up
What Is It About My Anger That You Are Afraid Of? My anger lives in my throat. Not because I don’t have words — trust me, I do — but because I have learned what it costs to use them. There are things I wanted to say, things I should have said, moments where my … Continue reading The Cost of Being a Black Woman Who Speaks Up
When the Rules Cut Deeper Than Hair
Why Are We Still Shaving Our Daughters’ Hair? The Colonial Rules That Keep Us Bound Generations after colonial rule ended, many Ghanaian schools still enforce hair-shaving policies rooted in control, not culture. It’s time we ask — why are we still upholding rules designed to make us small? A Viral Video That Struck a Nerve … Continue reading When the Rules Cut Deeper Than Hair
When Beauty Becomes Currency: The True Cost of Trading Youth for Security
Last week, social media erupted with videos of Regina Daniels, the young actress who once made headlines for marrying Nigerian billionaire Ned Nwoko. She was barely eighteen when the world watched her step into a life that seemed paved with gold. A few short years later, the same world is now watching her unravel — … Continue reading When Beauty Becomes Currency: The True Cost of Trading Youth for Security
When Men Cry Over Losing the Right to Marry Girl Children
There’s a video circulating online that’s hard to unsee. A grown man — face twisted in outrage — lamenting that Somalia’s parliament has betrayed men by ratifying a law that protects children. His complaint? That the government has stolen their right to marry girls. Not just children — girl children. Because no one is marrying … Continue reading When Men Cry Over Losing the Right to Marry Girl Children
Naming the Sickness: When Culture Protects Predators and Silences Victims
This week, three stories broke me open. A headmaster was caught on video touching a student inappropriately — in the same community where I grew up. Another man, also a headmaster, was filmed raping a child. And then on TikTok, a Ghanaian man bragged about sleeping with a woman who woke up not knowing how … Continue reading Naming the Sickness: When Culture Protects Predators and Silences Victims
Standing Your Ground: Reclaiming the Strength I Almost Gave Away
When I was twenty, I lost my mother to cancer. Through my teens I had watched her fight with quiet courage, and I still feel the imprint of her kindness and extraordinary work ethic. In many ways, I carry her grace. Yet I’ve also always known that I’m my father’s daughter—especially in one key trait: … Continue reading Standing Your Ground: Reclaiming the Strength I Almost Gave Away
Choosing Myself: Navigating Identity Between Two Worlds.
When I first moved to the UK, every outing felt like a doorway to something new. I said yes to almost every invitation, eager to learn, to belong. So when I got invited to my first party, I pictured a big meal, laughter around a table—the kind of gathering I’d known all my life. The … Continue reading Choosing Myself: Navigating Identity Between Two Worlds.
Koya Nkrumah 