Author: Koya Nkrumah
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Make sure you are looking after you.
The UK is going back into some form of lockdown for a month and no one really knows if the month will be enough to stop the rise in covid cases. These are uncertain times and more and more of us are finding ourselves isolated more than ever. I have been talking with friends and…
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How does abuse in relationships really start?
I have a few friends I keep in touch with weekly and one of such friends is Kwadwo – he is the person I normally go to when I want to see things from a male’s perspective. I bounce ideas off him because he is unbiased in his views and is not easily intimidated to…
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Must every woman carry and bear children to be a mother?
A few weeks ago when I wrote about leaving an abusive relationship, I touched on a few cultural expectations in marriage and how the woman seemed to be blamed when a marriage goes wrong. Another dimension to this is when the marriage produces no children it is automatically assumed that this is the fault of…
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Friends today, Enemies tomorrow!
Due to covid-19, I have not had a chance to socialise much with friends and I believe this is the case for many friends across the world. A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to meet with a few friends – we shared a meal and updated each other on what was happening in…
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Why are we mean to other people’s children?
A common saying in my language roughly translates – ‘to be a mother, one must carry a baby to truly qualify’. This week, the world witnessed the tragedy of Chrissy Teigen losing a pregnancy and I could not help but think of the heartbreak of losing a child and in her case candidly inviting in…
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The challenges of being a single woman!
Growing up, I never thought much about getting married – this was not something I dreamt or wished for. In my mind I was always a career woman and though I would have someone in my life, I never thought about marriage. From my post last week, you will already know that this was not…
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When is it time to leave an abusive relationship?
This week, a young woman was gunned down by her husband in front of her work place – he had threatened to kill her that same week. She chose to not report the threat to the police, which was captured on camera – she lost her life not long after. This news was shocking, as…
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Are you truly happy?
Like most Africans who practice christianity, I always end the year in church welcoming in the new year. However, at the end of 2019, I decided to stay home and not go to church like I usually do. Sacrilege! I know, very out of character from how I have been conditioned to behave and act.…
