Tag: mental health
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You Already Know What You Need to Let Go Of.
You already know what you need to let go of. Not because it’s broken, but because it’s costing you more than you’re willing to admit. This is a reflection on self-loyalty, quiet truths, and the strength it takes to release what no longer aligns—even when your heart is still holding on.
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The Strong Black Woman Is Tired: Why Survival Is Not a Superpower
“Help me.” From the outside, it looked like strength. Inside, it was survival. In this piece, I reflect on the hidden fatigue behind the Strong Black Woman label and what it means to stop performing resilience for the comfort of others. If you’ve ever been the one expected to hold everything together, this reflection is…
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What Childhood Friendships Taught Me About Adult Boundaries!
A reflective essay on friendship, attachment, and self-betrayal — and what it means to choose connection without losing yourself.
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Choosing Joy on My Own Terms
For the first time, I didn’t feel like I was on the outside looking in. This Christmas, I didn’t perform joy or tradition — I chose to be present. What I found was a quieter, gentler kind of joy that met me exactly where I was.
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The Cost of Being a Black Woman Who Speaks Up
What Is It About My Anger That You Are Afraid Of? My anger lives in my throat. Not because I don’t have words — trust me, I do — but because I have learned what it costs to use them. There are things I wanted to say, things I should have said, moments where my…
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When Beauty Becomes Currency: The True Cost of Trading Youth for Security
Last week, social media erupted with videos of Regina Daniels, the young actress who once made headlines for marrying Nigerian billionaire Ned Nwoko. She was barely eighteen when the world watched her step into a life that seemed paved with gold. A few short years later, the same world is now watching her unravel —…
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Why “I’m Okay” Was the Biggest Lie I Told Myself
I bet you’ve forgotten lockdown by now. For me, it’s a time I’ll never shake off. The first few months were brutal. No office. No routine. No distractions. Just me, my thoughts, and the uncomfortable truth that I couldn’t escape my own company. One afternoon, after a frustrating call with my father, I was ranting…
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When Doing Everything Right Still Feels Wrong: Learning to Deal with Disappointment
Have you ever done everything “right” — updated your CV, reached out to people, sent countless emails — and still, nothing changed? How did that feel? This week, while scrolling through social media, I came across a video of a young man sharing his frustrations. He had done it all: rewritten his CV, contacted recruiters,…
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When the Lens is Cracked, Even the Sun Looks Dangerous!
“When the lens is cracked, even the sun looks dangerous.” I said this to a friend earlier this week after she shared a frustrating experience with someone we both know. On the surface, this person’s reaction to a simple disagreement seemed extreme—but as we peeled back the layers, something became clear. I told my friend,…
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When Perfection Silences You: Choosing Progress Instead.
For too long, I let perfection silence me. Today, I choose progress. I choose to tell the stories that have lived inside me—raw, unfinished, and real. There Are Stories I’ve Never Told Not because I didn’t believe in them, but because I was waiting for them to be perfect. As a child, I was an…
Koya Nkrumah 