“If you have two friends in your lifetime, you’re lucky. If you have one good friend, you’re more than lucky.” I have been seeing this quote by S.E Hinton several times on social media - and while I agree with the quote to some extent, I strongly believe that our friendships are not based on … Continue reading Would you be friends with yourself?
Tag: self love
Are your friendships evolving?
Every Easter, I have a friend that shows up on my doorstep with an Easter egg for me. It’s an act that always brings me so much joy and true to her nature, she was on my doorstep this year with an Easter egg just for me. I have been friends with this person for … Continue reading Are your friendships evolving?
Why did no one teach me how to make and maintain friendships?
When I was six, I came home one day with a little girl and introduced her as my sister, it was day one of my family's visit to my granny - lol. I insisted that my new friend stayed for lunch and my mum obliged me - it was later in my late teens as … Continue reading Why did no one teach me how to make and maintain friendships?
Happy New Year and Choose Peace!
Oh boy, what a roller coaster of a year 2022 had been! 2022 was the closest to a normal year we have had in a while and it came with it's challenges. I remember a conversation I had on 31st December 2021 - a friend asked me what my resolutions were. I remember telling her … Continue reading Happy New Year and Choose Peace!
To effect change, be the change!
December has come around quite quick and I am not sure where the year 2022 went. Someone once told me that as you get older, you start to feel there are not enough hours in the day and time passes us by so quickly. That if we are not careful, we miss the moments that … Continue reading To effect change, be the change!
Thank you for your support!
In September 2020, I bared my sould to the world by writing my first blog on how I was feeling - I never expected the response I got back. Like me, many people were going through similar things and they were realising that they were not alone. The journey from that one post has been … Continue reading Thank you for your support!
Let’s refute some misconceptions about being a single woman!
Updated post from 20th September 2020. Growing up, I never thought much about getting married – this was not something I dreamt or wished for. In my mind I was always a career woman and though I would have someone in my life, I never thought about marriage. Coming from the society I grew up … Continue reading Let’s refute some misconceptions about being a single woman!
Growth is uncomfortable – but it is necessary!
A word I am fast accepting will be a constant in my vocabulary is growth! When I was a young girl, I always attributed growth to physical changes and the natural transition from childhood to adulthood. As I grew older, I realised that growth was multifaceted and applied to many areas of ones life - … Continue reading Growth is uncomfortable – but it is necessary!
Help! I am in a relationship with someone who is not available!
Paraphrased email from reader. Q- Hello Koya, I have recently started dating a gentleman I met on a night out with my friends. He was very intense and into me from the very beginning - he told me what he wanted from our relationship from the word go and I threw caution to the wind … Continue reading Help! I am in a relationship with someone who is not available!
Stop explaining yourself to people who will not listen.
First published May 2021 Not too long ago, I was having a heart to heart conversation with a very close friend. I was telling her of a betrayal I had suffered at the hands of someone I trusted very much. She was shocked by what I was telling her and asked me why I never … Continue reading Stop explaining yourself to people who will not listen.