First posted April 2022 When I was twenty years old, I lost my mother to cancer - through my teens, I had witnessed her battle the disease that would eventually steal her from our family. She was a kind person who made an impact on everyone she met and talking to a friend recently, I … Continue reading Dealing with an overbearing person!
Tag: toxic relationships
Hey ladies, are you looking after yourself financially?
This month marks the second anniversary of this blog - it has been an incredible journey, one I never imagined I would go on. There's been ups and downs and days when I truly felt I was not reaching anyone, but in those times, I would have a reader reach out - in some cases, … Continue reading Hey ladies, are you looking after yourself financially?
Let’s refute some misconceptions about being a single woman!
Updated post from 20th September 2020. Growing up, I never thought much about getting married – this was not something I dreamt or wished for. In my mind I was always a career woman and though I would have someone in my life, I never thought about marriage. Coming from the society I grew up … Continue reading Let’s refute some misconceptions about being a single woman!
Let’s talk about husband material, shall we!
Last week, while browsing social media, I came across a post on twitter I could not ignore, I had to comment. The writer of the post was narrating how he had lost the woman he intended to marry in a road accident. He had the compassion of most people in his comments, unfortunately, he did … Continue reading Let’s talk about husband material, shall we!
Help! I am in a relationship with someone who is not available!
Paraphrased email from reader. Q- Hello Koya, I have recently started dating a gentleman I met on a night out with my friends. He was very intense and into me from the very beginning - he told me what he wanted from our relationship from the word go and I threw caution to the wind … Continue reading Help! I am in a relationship with someone who is not available!
Stop explaining yourself to people who will not listen.
First published May 2021 Not too long ago, I was having a heart to heart conversation with a very close friend. I was telling her of a betrayal I had suffered at the hands of someone I trusted very much. She was shocked by what I was telling her and asked me why I never … Continue reading Stop explaining yourself to people who will not listen.
Would you date you?
A few weeks ago, I was talking to a friend who was navigating the dating scene and she had so many horror stories to tell about her experiences. As well as these horror stories were hilarious ones that I felt belonged in a poorly made romcom, lol - my friend’s experiences were a mixture of … Continue reading Would you date you?
Why are people so quick to believe bad things they hear about good people?
So, a bit of a story time - a good friend of mine visited me recently; I had not seen her for while and was happy to see her when she dropped over at mine after work. While we were catching up, the discussion moved on to another person we knew whom we had not … Continue reading Why are people so quick to believe bad things they hear about good people?
Has your man been snatched?
First posted 14th Feb 2021 I recently came across a radio show where a woman was narrating how her husband had been snatched by another woman. She was narrating her story on a talk show with mostly women panellists - I was intrigued how they all came to the conclusion that she should not leave … Continue reading Has your man been snatched?
Ever had people invalidate your feelings?
Ever had a conversation with someone about something that was very real to you only for them to turn around and negate your experiences because how you felt was not their experience? Well, that is exactly what happened in a recent conversation! To be honest, I was aware this happened and I was guilty of … Continue reading Ever had people invalidate your feelings?