A reflection on no contact, protection, and choosing peace As Christmas approaches, I’ve been thinking about family — and about the expectations that quietly come with this season. I recently came across a clip online where the topic of adult children choosing to go no contact with their parents was being discussed. The responses were … Continue reading When Family, Forgiveness, and Christmas Ask Too Much
When Men Cry Over Losing the Right to Marry Girl Children
There’s a video circulating online that’s hard to unsee. A grown man — face twisted in outrage — lamenting that Somalia’s parliament has betrayed men by ratifying a law that protects children. His complaint? That the government has stolen their right to marry girls. Not just children — girl children. Because no one is marrying … Continue reading When Men Cry Over Losing the Right to Marry Girl Children
Why Some Fathers Feel Left Out on Father’s Day — and Why It Matters
All year, David begged for one thing — a puppy. Every dinner conversation, every birthday card, every whispered bedtime wish carried the same hope:“Please, can I have a puppy for Christmas?” On Christmas morning, it finally happened. Wrapped in a red bow, nestled in a box with holes poked through, was a tiny golden retriever. … Continue reading Why Some Fathers Feel Left Out on Father’s Day — and Why It Matters
Would You Stay If Your Partner Lied About a Whole Child?
African social media has been on fire these past few days — all thanks to a chaotic video involving a Nigerian couple and their deeply complicated family drama. The video sparked fierce debate online, dividing audiences around the world, and after reading countless comments from both sides, I just had to share my take. Because … Continue reading Would You Stay If Your Partner Lied About a Whole Child?
Is hitting children discipline?
In many cultures and some religions, physical punishment of children is encouraged - the society I come from encourages this and many people have used a famous Christian bible verse to justify this practice. Years ago, I was sat in a meeting and the speaker who claimed to be passionate about fatherhood, especially for black … Continue reading Is hitting children discipline?
Must every woman carry and bear children to be a mother?
Updated post from October 2020 A Couple of years ago when I wrote about leaving an abusive relationship, I touched on a few cultural expectations in marriage and how women are blamed when a marriage goes wrong. Another dimension to this is when the marriage produces no children; it is automatically assumed that this is the … Continue reading Must every woman carry and bear children to be a mother?
Happy Mother’s Day ….
It is mother’s day in the Uk and I wanted to take this opportunity to wish all my lady readers a happy mother’s day. Though I have never birthed children, I am all too aware of the challenges that come with being a mother. I have heard horrific stories of women who lost their lives … Continue reading Happy Mother’s Day ….
Are you your parents pension plan?
There is an old Ghanaian saying in my Akan language that loosely translates, if your parents care for you from the time you had no teeth until you grew your full set, then it is your responsibility to care for them until they lose all theirs. A beautiful saying that implies that since parents care … Continue reading Are you your parents pension plan?
Koya Nkrumah 