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Should you tell your new partner about your past relationships?
A very close friend of mine said whenever she gets asked by a new guy she is dating about how many men she had dated, her answer had always been “the guy before you and now you”. This seemingly innocent question can sometimes have some very disturbing motives behind it as many women who have…
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Why are women held to higher morals than men?
I recently read about a pastor to the stars who had been fired from his position in the church because he had failed on moral grounds. It was further revealed that this pastor had cheated on his wife of seventeen years – the cheating incident was not a one off thing but rather a five…
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Is being vulnerable a sign of weakness?
When someone shows you their vulnerability, show them your respect and reliability – this is a quote that made me pause and think as I scrolled through my Facebook page a few days ago. You see, for years, I had been afraid and I may still be even now to show my vulnerability, because of…
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Should being picked by a man make a woman feel more valued?
I recently read a post on Instagram that got me a bit worried about the current view of romantic relationships from females perspective. The young woman who had posted this offending quote was alluding to the fact that, she was doing more than enough in her relationship and the man for whom she was doing…
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Have some self respect!
I recently went shopping with a friend I had not seen for a while – when we saw each other, we caught up on what was happening in our lives. We spoke on a variety of issues including our mental wellbeing. One thing that stood out in our conversations was that we were both on…
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Make sure you are looking after you.
The UK is going back into some form of lockdown for a month and no one really knows if the month will be enough to stop the rise in covid cases. These are uncertain times and more and more of us are finding ourselves isolated more than ever. I have been talking with friends and…
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How does abuse in relationships really start?
I have a few friends I keep in touch with weekly and one of such friends is Kwadwo – he is the person I normally go to when I want to see things from a male’s perspective. I bounce ideas off him because he is unbiased in his views and is not easily intimidated to…
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Must every woman carry and bear children to be a mother?
A few weeks ago when I wrote about leaving an abusive relationship, I touched on a few cultural expectations in marriage and how the woman seemed to be blamed when a marriage goes wrong. Another dimension to this is when the marriage produces no children it is automatically assumed that this is the fault of…
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Friends today, Enemies tomorrow!
Due to covid-19, I have not had a chance to socialise much with friends and I believe this is the case for many friends across the world. A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to meet with a few friends – we shared a meal and updated each other on what was happening in…
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Why are we mean to other people’s children?
A common saying in my language roughly translates – ‘to be a mother, one must carry a baby to truly qualify’. This week, the world witnessed the tragedy of Chrissy Teigen losing a pregnancy and I could not help but think of the heartbreak of losing a child and in her case candidly inviting in…
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