African social media has been on fire these past few days — all thanks to a chaotic video involving a Nigerian couple and their deeply complicated family drama. The video sparked fierce debate online, dividing audiences around the world, and after reading countless comments from both sides, I just had to share my take. Because … Continue reading Would You Stay If Your Partner Lied About a Whole Child?
Embracing the Present: Lessons from My Year Off
It has been a while—indeed, it has. When I hit “publish” on December 31st, 2022, I didn’t think it would take me over a year to return to this space. But life, as it often does, had other ideas. The struggle to come back, to write as consistently as I once did, felt like … Continue reading Embracing the Present: Lessons from My Year Off
Lessons From 2023!
On January 1st 2023, I posted that I was choosing peace above all! Choosing peace in 2022 had served me well - especially in my dealings with family and family related issues; so I thought, why not continue on the same trajectory for 2023! What I forgot was that my choosing peace did not guarantee … Continue reading Lessons From 2023!
When you are tired, rest!
It was on the third anniversary of this blog, while I struggled to write a post to celebrate, that I finally accepted that I was fatigued. Writing had never been a problem for me - all I needed was a topic I was passionate about and the anniversary post was a chance to talk about … Continue reading When you are tired, rest!
Why did no one teach me how to make and maintain friendships?
When I was six, I came home one day with a little girl and introduced her as my sister, it was day one of my family's visit to my granny - lol. I insisted that my new friend stayed for lunch and my mum obliged me - it was later in my late teens as … Continue reading Why did no one teach me how to make and maintain friendships?
Happy New Year and Choose Peace!
Oh boy, what a roller coaster of a year 2022 had been! 2022 was the closest to a normal year we have had in a while and it came with it's challenges. I remember a conversation I had on 31st December 2021 - a friend asked me what my resolutions were. I remember telling her … Continue reading Happy New Year and Choose Peace!
To effect change, be the change!
December has come around quite quick and I am not sure where the year 2022 went. Someone once told me that as you get older, you start to feel there are not enough hours in the day and time passes us by so quickly. That if we are not careful, we miss the moments that … Continue reading To effect change, be the change!
Stop explaining yourself to people who will not listen.
First published May 2021 Not too long ago, I was having a heart to heart conversation with a very close friend. I was telling her of a betrayal I had suffered at the hands of someone I trusted very much. She was shocked by what I was telling her and asked me why I never … Continue reading Stop explaining yourself to people who will not listen.
Time to prioritise your mental health.
Last month, there were a couple of high profile suicides in the news - the talented 26 year old son of one of my favourite actors and a gorgeous 30 year old beauty queen both ended their lives. In that same month, I had been struggling with sleep and my doctor had suggested that I … Continue reading Time to prioritise your mental health.
Ever had people invalidate your feelings?
Ever had a conversation with someone about something that was very real to you only for them to turn around and negate your experiences because how you felt was not their experience? Well, that is exactly what happened in a recent conversation! To be honest, I was aware this happened and I was guilty of … Continue reading Ever had people invalidate your feelings?
Koya Nkrumah 