Tag: self love
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Let’s refute some misconceptions about being a single woman!

Updated post from 20th September 2020. Growing up, I never thought much about getting married – this was not something I dreamt or wished for. In my mind I was always a career woman and though I would have someone in my life, I never thought about marriage. Coming from the society I grew up…
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Growth is uncomfortable – but it is necessary!

A word I am fast accepting will be a constant in my vocabulary is growth! When I was a young girl, I always attributed growth to physical changes and the natural transition from childhood to adulthood. As I grew older, I realised that growth was multifaceted and applied to many areas of ones life –…
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Help! I am in a relationship with someone who is not available!

Paraphrased email from reader. Q- Hello Koya, I have recently started dating a gentleman I met on a night out with my friends. He was very intense and into me from the very beginning – he told me what he wanted from our relationship from the word go and I threw caution to the wind…
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Stop explaining yourself to people who will not listen.

First published May 2021 Not too long ago, I was having a heart to heart conversation with a very close friend. I was telling her of a betrayal I had suffered at the hands of someone I trusted very much. She was shocked by what I was telling her and asked me why I never…
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Dealing with overbearing people.

When I was twenty years old, I lost my mother to cancer – through my teens, I had witnessed her battle the disease that would eventually steal her from our family. She was a kind person who made an impact on everyone she met and talking to a friend recently, I noticed that I had…
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Would you date you?

A few weeks ago, I was talking to a friend who was navigating the dating scene and she had so many horror stories to tell about her experiences. As well as these horror stories were hilarious ones that I felt belonged in a poorly made romcom, lol – my friend’s experiences were a mixture of…
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Has your man been snatched?

First posted 14th Feb 2021 I recently came across a radio show where a woman was narrating how her husband had been snatched by another woman. She was narrating her story on a talk show with mostly women panellists – I was intrigued how they all came to the conclusion that she should not leave…
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Time to prioritise your mental health.

Last month, there were a couple of high profile suicides in the news – the talented 26 year old son of one of my favourite actors and a gorgeous 30 year old beauty queen both ended their lives. In that same month, I had been struggling with sleep and my doctor had suggested that I…
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This year, choose you!

I want to start by wishing everyone a happy new year and to also thank you for your support over the last year. My journey and growth has all been possible because of your support – thank you very much and I am excited for all that is ahead as we journey together. Talking about…
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When you see the red flags, run!

A couple of weeks ago, I came across a social media post of an image of a young woman who had swollen lips and eyes due to domestic violence. She had taken one of the images when she was in hospital and there was a video of her distressed in her hospital bed. She stated…