Author: Koya Nkrumah
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Must every woman carry and bear children to be a mother?
Updated post from October 2020 A Couple of years ago when I wrote about leaving an abusive relationship, I touched on a few cultural expectations in marriage and how women are blamed when a marriage goes wrong. Another dimension to this is when the marriage produces no children; it is automatically assumed that this is the…
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Stop explaining yourself to people who will not listen.
First published May 2021 Not too long ago, I was having a heart to heart conversation with a very close friend. I was telling her of a betrayal I had suffered at the hands of someone I trusted very much. She was shocked by what I was telling her and asked me why I never…
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Dealing with overbearing people.
When I was twenty years old, I lost my mother to cancer – through my teens, I had witnessed her battle the disease that would eventually steal her from our family. She was a kind person who made an impact on everyone she met and talking to a friend recently, I noticed that I had…
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Revoking my church membership!
First published 07 Nov 2021 I was born into a Presbyterian family and baptised as a baby – I would later choose to be baptised again in a non denominational church when I was 20, I felt I was old enough to choose my own path and not my parents decision to have me baptised…
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Why are men so concerned about a woman’s body count?
First posted 6th June 2021 – updated. When I was growing up, there was a toxic trend where boys/men would have sex with a girl and go round telling their friends about their experience with said girl. It would not be long before everyone in the neighbourhood/school would be aware of what had transpired between…
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Happy Mother’s Day ….
It is mother’s day in the Uk and I wanted to take this opportunity to wish all my lady readers a happy mother’s day. Though I have never birthed children, I am all too aware of the challenges that come with being a mother. I have heard horrific stories of women who lost their lives…
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Would you date you?
A few weeks ago, I was talking to a friend who was navigating the dating scene and she had so many horror stories to tell about her experiences. As well as these horror stories were hilarious ones that I felt belonged in a poorly made romcom, lol – my friend’s experiences were a mixture of…
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Are you your parents pension plan?
There is an old Ghanaian saying in my Akan language that loosely translates, if your parents care for you from the time you had no teeth until you grew your full set, then it is your responsibility to care for them until they lose all theirs. A beautiful saying that implies that since parents care…
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Why are people so quick to believe bad things they hear about good people?
So, a bit of a story time – a good friend of mine visited me recently; I had not seen her for while and was happy to see her when she dropped over at mine after work. While we were catching up, the discussion moved on to another person we knew whom we had not…
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