Tag: people-pleasing
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Why saying no feels unsafe when you’re the one everyone leans on.
“I would never have missed it for anything in the world!” To many reading the social media post that had this statement, it looked like a harmless message on the surface – but to me, it was a dismissal of something very serious that had happened to me. My crime? I had decided to not…
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When You React Bigger Than the Moment: Understanding Your Triggers
Ever had someone react to a situation in a way that made you pause and think “that was a bit much”? Or perhaps you reacted – in a way that made another person or even yourself wonder what your reaction was truly about? The raised voice, change in facial expressions and body posture – or…
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It Takes a Village — But Who Holds the Village Up?
“She has nobody” These were the words I heard from my brother when I had already said no to my sister. I changed my mind and plans to accommodate everyone again – because I love them. Became the babysitter again – the children love me and I do love them so much. So last week,…
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Am I Auditioning?
“How come I am the one everyone wants around but never enough to be chosen?” These were words from a creator on TikTok. And I felt them. I knew the feeling too well and this TikTok creator had put words to it perfectly – so much so that it stopped my mindless scrolling. I was…
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When Did I Become Everything to Everyone and Nothing to Myself?
Ever felt like you are the one everyone calls when they need help? The one who can be relied on to show up – but the same people never show up when you call. The strong one who carries everyone silently – the one who is fatigued and carries a sense of sadness no words…
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You’re Not Stuck. You’re Afraid to Leave.
You feel stuck… like no matter what you do, your life isn’t moving. You want progress — you see the milestones others celebrate and you want them too. But no matter what you do, you continue to celebrate others’ milestones while nothing seems to shift for you. You would give anything to see the progress…
Koya Nkrumah 