Tag: Coming Home to Yourself
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How to Clean Your Vulva — and Why You Were Taught to Fear It
You were taught your body was dirty and kept ready for a man. Here’s who taught you that, why it isn’t true, and how to reclaim it as your own.
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Why saying no feels unsafe when you’re the one everyone leans on.
“I would never have missed it for anything in the world!” To many reading the social media post that had this statement, it looked like a harmless message on the surface – but to me, it was a dismissal of something very serious that had happened to me. My crime? I had decided to not…
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When You React Bigger Than the Moment: Understanding Your Triggers
Ever had someone react to a situation in a way that made you pause and think “that was a bit much”? Or perhaps you reacted – in a way that made another person or even yourself wonder what your reaction was truly about? The raised voice, change in facial expressions and body posture – or…
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It Takes a Village — But Who Holds the Village Up?
“She has nobody” These were the words I heard from my brother when I had already said no to my sister. I changed my mind and plans to accommodate everyone again – because I love them. Became the babysitter again – the children love me and I do love them so much. So last week,…
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There Is No Expiry Date on Grief.
When my mother died, I remember wanting to call her – to tell her that she had died. It was a weird feeling I could not describe. One that still brings tears to my eyes when I remember how I felt that day when I noticed I would never be able to call her again.…
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Who did I become to survive?
“You seem harsh lately – almost mean”. She paused and looked me in the eyes and continued “You used to save the little insects and was so nurturing towards everyone, especially animals – what happened?” I did not have an answer for my friend – I remembered what happened that day, how I had reacted…
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Have I healed too much?
I was lying on my sofa, one Friday evening when I realised it was no longer there – that feeling I had always carried. The bracing – the sense of worry and the anticipation of something bad happening. That strength I always leaned on to brace – was simply not there – and in that…
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When Did I Become Everything to Everyone and Nothing to Myself?
Ever felt like you are the one everyone calls when they need help? The one who can be relied on to show up – but the same people never show up when you call. The strong one who carries everyone silently – the one who is fatigued and carries a sense of sadness no words…
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You’re Not Stuck. You’re Afraid to Leave.
You feel stuck… like no matter what you do, your life isn’t moving. You want progress — you see the milestones others celebrate and you want them too. But no matter what you do, you continue to celebrate others’ milestones while nothing seems to shift for you. You would give anything to see the progress…
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When the Rules Cut Deeper Than Hair
Why Are We Still Shaving Our Daughters’ Hair? The Colonial Rules That Keep Us Bound Generations after colonial rule ended, many Ghanaian schools still enforce hair-shaving policies rooted in control, not culture. It’s time we ask — why are we still upholding rules designed to make us small? A Viral Video That Struck a Nerve…
Koya Nkrumah 